Sometimes It’s Good to Give In

Stay with me here whilst I explain.

I always intended to make my bridesmaid dresses. I didn’t like the idea of spending £50-£100 per dress (and I have 4 bridesmaids), plus since I can sew, it just made sense to use that skill. Somewhat of a no-brainer.

However, when it came to work with the fabric I’d chosen, I really started to regret it. It was the most difficult fabric I’ve ever had the misfortune of working with. It was so fine and so slippery. Cutting it out was a nightmare. Sewing it wasn’t great either.

I had hoped to finish them in a day – not altogether an unreasonable aim for 2 seamstresses. After one day we’d cut out the bodice pieces and start to sew a few of them together. After a couple of hours on the 2nd day (2 weeks later), we realised it just wasn’t going to work.

I didn’t want to stop.

We spent some time looking for alternative dresses online. I couldn’t bring myself to stop sewing unless I knew I had an alternative. Luckily, after about an hour and a half of searching, we managed to find a dress in the right colour and for a good price – in fact, it was about 1/3 of the price I was expecting to pay!

Comparison of the fabric (right) and the bought dress (left) – colours are slightly off

It was a hard choice. I want our wedding to be everything we want it to be. I don’t want to have failed in one area. I’m someone who likes doing things myself. But at the end of the day, I have 3 months. And in that time I’m expecting to go to 3 conventions. Obviously, the wedding is far more important, but I also have a million and one other things to think about for it. Making the bridesmaids dresses with this fabric, would probably have been the most stressful thing. I wouldn’t have found it fun. There’s a good chance they wouldn’t have looked great in the end.

It feels wrong. Some part of me feels that I’ve let down anyone that I told I was going to make them. It’s stupid really, because no one else was telling me that I had to make them, that was just the voice in my own head. It’s hard to know if I’ve done the right thing. Come the wedding day however, the 4 bridesmaids will look stunning because they’re gorgeous girls, not because of the dress they’re wearing.

True colour of the original fabric chosen for the dresses

It’s not giving up. It’s giving in. I think there’s an important difference there. I’ve chosen not to make them now, because I know it makes more sense. And because I know making them would cause a fair bit of stress that I could do without. I’m giving in to the easier option, not giving up something that was too hard.