Stay with me here whilst I explain.
I always intended to make my bridesmaid dresses. I didn’t like the idea of spending £50-£100 per dress (and I have 4 bridesmaids), plus since I can sew, it just made sense to use that skill. Somewhat of a no-brainer.
However, when it came to work with the fabric I’d chosen, I really started to regret it. It was the most difficult fabric I’ve ever had the misfortune of working with. It was so fine and so slippery. Cutting it out was a nightmare. Sewing it wasn’t great either.
I had hoped to finish them in a day – not altogether an unreasonable aim for 2 seamstresses. After one day we’d cut out the bodice pieces and start to sew a few of them together. After a couple of hours on the 2nd day (2 weeks later), we realised it just wasn’t going to work.
I didn’t want to stop.
We spent some time looking for alternative dresses online. I couldn’t bring myself to stop sewing unless I knew I had an alternative. Luckily, after about an hour and a half of searching, we managed to find a dress in the right colour and for a good price – in fact, it was about 1/3 of the price I was expecting to pay!
|Comparison of the fabric (right) and the bought dress (left) – colours are slightly off|
It was a hard choice. I want our wedding to be everything we want it to be. I don’t want to have failed in one area. I’m someone who likes doing things myself. But at the end of the day, I have 3 months. And in that time I’m expecting to go to 3 conventions. Obviously, the wedding is far more important, but I also have a million and one other things to think about for it. Making the bridesmaids dresses with this fabric, would probably have been the most stressful thing. I wouldn’t have found it fun. There’s a good chance they wouldn’t have looked great in the end.
It feels wrong. Some part of me feels that I’ve let down anyone that I told I was going to make them. It’s stupid really, because no one else was telling me that I had to make them, that was just the voice in my own head. It’s hard to know if I’ve done the right thing. Come the wedding day however, the 4 bridesmaids will look stunning because they’re gorgeous girls, not because of the dress they’re wearing.
|True colour of the original fabric chosen for the dresses|
It’s not giving up. It’s giving in. I think there’s an important difference there. I’ve chosen not to make them now, because I know it makes more sense. And because I know making them would cause a fair bit of stress that I could do without. I’m giving in to the easier option, not giving up something that was too hard.